How To Stay Calm and Plan a Great Wedding

Even though your wedding may very well be the best day of your life up until now, you may find that the day itself will be more enjoyable to look back on. Though a wedding can be beautiful and wonderful, the planning itself has caused many passive women to turn into what some people call “Bridezilla’s”.

This term stems from a woman that becomes so stressed by the process of planning her own wedding that she becomes a rigid, crazed, and argumentative counterpart to her former self. Wanting everything to go perfectly and becoming enraged if the slightest complication arises. We all know this term and we all wish not to deal with that nickname when planning our weddings, but it is all too easy to find your self over stressed and transforming, by the second, into Bridezilla.

The best idea is to avoid as much stress, during the process, as possible. This may seem impossible, but it is very easy to turn your frustrations over and try another route that is more peaceful. After all, you are planning the day of your life that is meant to display your deepest feelings of love and affection towards the one you love, so do you really want to spend the 6-12 months leading up to that day in a frenzied rage? That doesn’t make any sense at all.

First of all you need to start recognizing stress in yourself as it arises. Recognize the signs of stress and understand them. Identify and understand the sources of stress. Learn to manage controllable sources of stress. Learn to support yourself and cope with stress reactions to situations beyond your control. You need to know that we all have different triggers for stress, and with triggers are signs of manifesting stress, and they are as unique as we are.

From stomach aches to racing thoughts, these signs of stress can lead to over load, so recognize them, know your triggers. When they present themselves it is time to take a long, deep breath, and reassess the current situation. You know you are stressed in that moment, now you must find a calming trigger to reduce the inflamed stress feeling. By taking a breath and realizing that you do not want stress to manifest, you will be able to make better, smarter, and less spontaneous decisions regarding the most important day of your life.

You know stress is coming, it is just a part of it. But by being aware and prepared for it you have the awareness that will give you the strength to avoid most of it, or at least control it. Take a walk, call a soothing friend, go listen to a quick song on your car radio, but whatever you do, don’t let the stress take control. You already know from family and friend advice that something will go wrong but you do not have to give that your focus. By being prepared for the inevitable, and hitting back with calm preparedness, you will beat the stress, power through the planning, and reap the benefits of a wonderful wedding. Then all of the planning thoughts will melt away as you hop on that plane on your way to your honeymoon destination. Enjoy the ride in the planning process, don’t let it take control, and enjoy the fruits of your labor.

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Filed under: Wedding Planning — vicky at 12:08 pm on Tuesday, May 26, 2009

DIY Wedding Favors Tips

There are lots of details you have to face when planning your wedding, but the fun and best part is making and creating the unique favors and little treats that make your guests feel special. Favors not only give he guests something to keep as a unique reminder of your beautiful day, but it gives them a small gift to enjoy and makes them feel important and appreciated for being there. Favors give your guests memorabilia from your special day.

With all of the bigger items and tasks that need to be dealt with throughout the wedding planning process it is understandable that details such as favors can be easily overlooked until the last minute. Try to do the exact opposite. From day one create a simple list of all the people that you know will be attending the service. Spend a few minutes to identify something you relate to those people and make a simple note on your list. Such as an Uncle who is a fireman, or a cousin who is a nurse.

Use the small details to create a simple, yet personalized, favor for each attending person. If your wedding planning is going to be a 10-12 month process, then dedicate one day per person for brainstorming, this only takes five minutes per day per person. This way you are separating the effort while making each favor as unique as the person it is going to.

If you can come up with a general favor design then you have an excellent starting point. Items such as magnets, photo coasters, and photo frames are very general items that can be personalized and customized to the individual attendee.

Come up with your bulk order favor item as early into the planning as possible. A great time to prepare your bulk purchase would be around the time you are receiving the RSVP cards. By that time you will have narrowed your favor item down to a final and will be ready to place your order once the attending tally has been made. Once your bulk items have arrived, let’s say you ordered the photo coasters for 50 guests, plus your 12 main attendants (brides maids and groomsmen), use your main guest/attendant list as your daily favor guide. After writing down one main theme per person, spend 5 minutes each day to create and personalize one photo coaster for the next person on your list.

If you have a color printer, and photo paper, you have your new best friend in this process. Let’s say you are on day 15 and you are making a coaster for your Uncle the firefighter. Search pictures online that represent a fireman’s job. Use a photo project program to create a unique layout using your picture and add words to the picture for personalization. This process will take 5 minutes or less per person and by splitting it up into small, daily increments it will seem effortless.

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Filed under: Accessories — vicky at 12:36 pm on Wednesday, May 20, 2009